That’s the motto behind www.AshleyMadison.com, “the world’s leading married dating service for discreet encounters.” Their website allows you to “SEARCH FOR MARRIED PEOPLE IN YOUR AREA!” as soon as you join.
But don’t worry; by their estimates, they don’t endorse infidelity….
AshleyMadison.com is the brainchild of Noel Biderman, a former lawyer and sports agent, who helps people find sexual bliss…even if they must have an extramarital affair to do so. He claims his website is merely the connection point for men and women who are trapped in boring marriages, and nothing more.
There must be a lot of unhappy couples out there; Ashley Madison’s membership boasts 19 million members.
But they’re not just a meeting place for cheaters; their website offers lots of “helpful” tips on how to go about having a discreet affair. For examples, users will find articles such as Things to Consider When Thinking About a Threesome, Understanding the Sexual Body Language of Your Female Affair Partner (Part 1 AND 2), and 7 Problems In Extramarital Affairs and How to Fix Them.
But, somehow, the folks at Ashley Madison deny encouraging infidelity. On the Frequently Asked Questions page, users can find the following explanation for that seemingly obvious contradiction:
Q: Does Ashley Madison encourage infidelity?
A: No, Ashley Madison does not encourage anyone to stray. In fact, if you are having difficulty with your relationship, you should seek counseling. However, if you still feel that you will seek a person other than your partner to fill your unmet needs, then we truly believe that our service is the best place to start.
In other words, “You shouldn’t cheat…but if you do cheat, cheat with us!”
Another FAQ addresses the questionable morality of such a website’s existence:
Q: This website seems like a radical idea. What do people have to say about it?
A: Top public opinion is clearly in favor of a free and democratic society that lets people do as they wish, including signing on to our service to have an affair. A recent survey suggested that as many as 75% of those polled believed that: “While cheating was inherently wrong, we should still have the right as a free society to decide to make up our own minds.” Besides, the most fatal decision is that of a settled point of view.
Wow! It’s hard to even compute how many things are wrong with that rambling and unsatisfactory answer. But this is a perfect example of the lackadaisical environment in which marriages exist today.
Though it differs from Ashley Madison’s slogan, I’d suggest the following mantra:
“Life is short. Keep your promises.”
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